There aren’t a whole lot of jobs, hobbies, or activities that offer a completely unpredictable and varying experience every time you engage in it! I’ve been working on NiteFlirt, offering phone sex for 2 years now, and I have to say: from day to day, hour to hour, and client to client, I am always surprised and impressed by the versatility in sexual desires NiteFlirt has introduced me to.
I’m fascinated by the extensive list of reasons a man might pick up the phone and connect to a paid provider for their sexual needs; i’m equally as curious as to what is gained from their experiences and how that impacts their every day lives – both sexually and otherwise. Only through phone sex have I shared equally enjoyable moments with men who are millionaire CEO’s and men who are spending their last dollar till payday. Married or single, dominant or submissive, taboo or vanilla, rich or poor, kind-hearted or a straight up asshole…. every single demographic of men engage in paid phone fucking.
Why, when we live in 2017 and there are so many choices available in adult entertainment, do so many men still want the “old-fashioned” experience of picking up their telephone and calling a girl to talk dirty to? There’s not just one simple answer to that question; however, I will argue that phone sex is anything but “outdated.” While it may appear more “mainstream” to watch free internet porn or find a cam girl in a chat room entertaining a multitude of men at once, those experiences don’t quite offer the flexibility and other advantages that come with phone sex.
What does phone sex provide for you?
While I personally am a phone sex provider, I believe that ALL forms of adult entertainment offer many incredible services to its patrons. I would never say that one form of entertainment or engagement in the adult industry is better than any other. Whether we work as a dancer, escort, porn star, model, phone or cam girl, dominatrix, or any number of roles of an exotic and erotic nature, we all offer something unique to that particular niche.
While many of these items are also offered in other forms of adult entertainment, I’ll focus on how each relates to the needs and possibilities of a man who is seeking some adventure, pleasure, excitement, attention, and acceptance in his life on the other end of the phone.
Intimate Connections
I’ve discovered that one of the main reasons men reach out to phone sex providers is to fill a void of personal connection that’s been missing in their lives. Sometimes it’s as simply as hearing someone breathing or moaning to carry you over the edge of a climax, while other times it might be seeking out a romantic connection that feels like the beginning stages of a new, exciting relationship. You might call a phone girl for sex, for intimacy, or just to have contact with another human being as a friend or confidant. Loneliness can eat away at us and make us feel like we don’t have support or love in this world. Sure, you might not be meeting up with your sexy flirt for dinner and drinks (nor should you be), but you are gaining something extraordinary that all men and women – regardless of relationship, economic, or social status will desire and crave.
No judgment
Once anyone begins exploring and discovering his or her own sexuality, there’s always someone along the way who will introduce shame into the mix. I may only be 20 years old, and I haven’t been with an excessive amount of partners, but from as young as age 13 I can recall friends teasing me about something I thought was hot. At the age of 15 I had a boyfriend first shame me for something we did in the bedroom. Even now, at 20, I have friends who can’t believe I’m okay with dating older men, with doing anal, or with making money on NiteFlirt. There’s always someone who is going to be a prude, a hypocrite, and a judgmental piece of shit toward something that turns you on, something you’ve been curious about, or something you’ve done. When it comes to phone sex, as long as you’re respecting each individual girls’ boundaries and NiteFlirt’s terms of service, you should expect to be met with acceptance and understanding. That’s not to say that I am just cool with anything a guy throws at me in a call; however, if your phone sex provider is professional and respectful of her clients, she’ll ask questions or point you in the direction of someone who can help you if she feels she isn’t comfortable with your kink.
Convenience
Wife go to bed early and leave you unsatisfied? Away for a business trip and excited to get as loud and dirty as you want? On your way home from work and need to blow off steam? Need a quick jerk off session on your lunch break? Typical porn getting too predictable and you want to switch things up on a whim?
Phone sex is the perfect answer to all of these and hundreds of more scenarios where you can reach out to a sexy little thing like me, use me up and hang up the phone without anyone other than you ever knowing you took those few minutes or those several hours to unleash the load you’d been building up in your balls.
Anonymity
I’ll never see your face unless you want me to. You can give a fake name, fake career, and entirely fake persona each and every time you call. You might be a household celebrity name or you might be a guy who lives in the same city as me, and I’ll never know it so long as you want to remain anonymous. Strip clubs, escort services, and even cam sessions don’t offer the same level of anonymity that one receives just by simply picking up the phone.
Zero commitment
I think it’s great that men can “shop around” for their phone fucks with no level of commitment. As much as I might believe that a caller is “loyal” to me and only me, the reality is that you as the man have the freedom to call as many girls as often as you like. It’s the excitement of cheating without actually cheating, because you don’t emotionally owe us girls anything. On a site like NiteFlirt you can sign up for an account and never even pay a dime until the day you decide to finally dial to connect to someone. It’s complete freedom and the perfect way to explore your sexuality, fetishes, and sexual preferences with no strings attached.
Safety
Perhaps most important at all, you get to fuck, feel intimacy, and find a confidant of someone who cares about you without the danger of being labeled an “adulterer” or having any of the fears that go along with having sex with multiple partners. Phone fucks are the safest way to step out on your significant other and get what you want for your own sexual needs, without the fear of ever disrupting your day-to-day life.
What can we do in a phone sex call?
As many of my most beloved regular clients already know, phone sex doesn’t have to be just about sex. Sure, that’s a huge part of it and was possibly the initiating motivator for you to pick up the phone and dial a particular girl’s number. However, the idea of what phone sex actually IS and CAN BE to not only novice callers and brand new rookies, but also seasoned vets might be of a surprise.
When I first ventured down this phone sex path, I imagined that I’d be doing a whole lot of moaning and perfecting the sound of a faked orgasm. I had an arsenal of some tried and true dirty words and phrases that would be the sure fire way to get any guy to blow his load. In all honesty, I had very little clue as to what would be expected from me until a couple weeks into logging in and taking a variety of calls. From boring, exciting, surprising, shocking, and downright grotesque, I’ve heard things that fester in the back of dirty minds and are rarely spoken. I’ve listened to men unleash fears that have eaten away at insecurities for decades, only to finally allow someone freedom from the things they never knew they could say aloud. Regardless if a particular fetish is obscene or of a more standard variety, the versatility with which a phone sex provider can address your needs are endless.
Let’s take a look at some options you have when connecting to a girl and playing out your fantasy via the phone:
No Nonsense Dirty Talk
What most of us associate with the idea of phone sex, using dirty language with the purpose of getting off is the most straight forward way to get the job done. We don’t need to know each others names or anything about the stranger with whom we’ve connected; all you really need is for me to tell you how i’m gonna suck your cock, how it’s gonna feel, and how much I fucking love the taste. Take note here, though, that a good phone sex provider is gonna hit on all of your many senses during these calls. She should still be taking care of you, be attentive to your needs, and be able to follow your cues of whether or not you’re enjoying the direction of the call or the things she’s saying and the way she’s delivering these “fuck me hard” words and phrases. Consider when you watch a cooking tutorial on TV; you rely on more than your eyes and ears to make you understand and crave the flavors of that particular dish. It’s up to the chef to use the proper language that is going to make you salivate and need what they are offering you – you can not only see it, you can feel it and smell it and taste it, and it’s incredible.
A phone sex call with no nonsense dirty talk should leave you panting by the end; you should be able to practically taste my sweet little pussy when I tell you it tastes like honey as you lick it off your dripping wet fingers and you should be able to feel the silky smoothness of my sweet little cunt before your cock penetrates it and is wrapped swelling and throbbing inside me. As a phone sex provider i’ve learned that vocabulary is a girl’s best friend and the ability to make you get lost in our dirty talk – whether it’s for 5 minutes or 45 minutes – is what you’re spending your hard earned money on.
Jerk Off Instructions
As a girl i’d always scoffed at the idea of a guy wanting a hand job from me. I mean, he has his own hand and can jerk it to perfection by now, right? Wouldn’t you rather me use my mouth, pussy, or ass? That may be somewhat true when it comes to in-person interactions (though I’ve come to appreciate how fucking hot a load of cum dripping down my pretty little fingers after a hand job can be), but on the phone so many men love to give up total control.
A part of me having control over your dick is for me to tell you exactly how, when, at what pace, and for how long you are allowed to stroke it. It wasn’t until I became much more seasoned in the art of phone sex that I’ve really gotten a good grasp on how to tell you to grasp your hard dick. Now, giving jerk off instructions is one of my favorite things to do during a call. From telling you how to get yourself rock hard, to playing with your balls, to only touching the head or the base or nothing at all, I’ve learned some beautiful fucking ways to tease and deny a man and bring the experience to a euphoric level. In jerk off instructions, edging a guy to the brink and walking him back over and over again can build up such a strong load of cum that a man might now have the self-control to work at on his own. This is the perfect type of call to ease new phone sex clients into finding a comfort level with what will soon become one of his very favorite new hobbies.
Role Plays
When you call a phone sex provider, one of the greatest advantages is that not only can YOU be whoever you want to be; you can also request that I be whoever you want me to be! Role plays are only restricted by the extent of one’s imagination and creativity, so if you can imagine a super hot scenario and how it might play out, you can absolutely engage in a fucking sexy role play call! Even though role plays are one of the most common types of phone sex calls that us girls tend to, it CAN seem intimidating. I remember when I first started doing role plays over the phone I would sometimes get in my head and wonder, “what if I can’t think of what to say?” or “what if I say something stupid?” The reality is, we are both playing a role and we just do the best we can and have fun with it. Who cares if what we say is stupid or absurd? Isn’t that part of the fun of playing a role you’d never actually play? I’ve ended role play calls where my client and I, both out of breath, can’t help but laugh uncontrollably because the scenario we somehow walked ourselves into was so silly and unbelievable; however, that doesn’t stop us from getting caught up in it and keeping each other on our toes, and of course, ending the role play with an intense spurt of cum all over the place!
If you’ve been reluctant or unsure of how to role play, just take an every day scenario and imagine how it can turn sexy. Talk to your phone sex girl about wanting to try some fun role plays and ask if she has any ideas to get started. For instance, maybe you’re sitting in traffic on the way to a job interview; consider the question:
“how could this become sexy?“
From there, I might say that your eye catches the eye of the woman sitting bored in the vehicle beside you… she notices you looking at her….. you see her starting to bite her lip and all of a sudden you start to feel yourself get so hard in your pants….. next thing you know….. you see her unbuttoning her blouse slowly….. teasing some cleavage and then, while making eye contact with you she lowers her top altogether and shows you her perky tits. You can’t help yourself…. you’ve got to pull your cock out, and you start to notice, her hand is sliding down into her lap as well… you both cum together while waiting in traffic. You both go on your way, imagining you’ll never see each other ever again. Yet, when you arrive for your interview, all relaxed and ready to rock, you are told it’ll be just a moment before your potential new boss can see you….. see, she was also stuck in traffic, and as you’re finally summoned to her office…. surprise! Guess who?!
That’s just one example of DOZENS of ways that role play could go, depending on your personal fetishes and what gets you off. Maybe you’re the creep who is watching the woman in the car next to you, she doesn’t notice you until she sees you jerking off frantically to her, and all she can do is laugh and start to take pictures of you with her phone as you jerk your pathetic little dick.
The hottest thing to me about role plays is that there are the tried and true “roles” but so much can be done with them for unexpected twists that keep them fresh and tailored to YOU once your phone sex provider gets to know you more intimately. What might start off as a schoolgirl, babysitter, or cheerleader role play can take a turn in so many directions based on both our levels of creativity and what gets us off and is a turn on in the moment.
Girlfriend Experience
Being that I’ve already dedicated a lot of time to discussing “the girlfriend experience” here on my blog, I’ll refer you to where you can get the best information I’ve already put together here: http://www.ryderdoll.com/blog/virtual-girlfriend-experience/
But, just as a quick recap… girlfriend experience is when you establish an ongoing, intimate, and sexy relationship with your phone sex provider. For me, girlfriend experience actually feels like a real long-distance relationship. It’s not a “role play” or game nor is there any “faking” things just to keep you on the phone or to mislead you. Not every client of mine is a candidate for girlfriend experience with ME, but those who are or have been are men that i’ve truly grown to care for and even love. These men have dedicated a large portion of both their time and their money to learning about me as a person well beyond what I can provide for them sexually. There’s a mutual respect, admiration, genuine interest, and level of intimacy that cannot be faked or forced. Girlfriend experience clients will have a conversation about both our days, current events, funny stories we can share, and may not always end with sex. Yet, when these calls do result in sex (which is usually the case, since we are really attracted to one another), it’s intimate, fierce, steamy as fuck, and plays into both of us mutually experiencing pleasure. If a man feels neglected in his current relationship with his wife or girlfriend or feels that he works a lot or has been single for a while and is missing intimacy and personal connection in his life, then he’s a great candidate for seeking out a woman who can provide him with a one of a kind girlfriend experience. To some men, the idea of spending money for hours of “just talking” on the phone with a girl he’s not dating in real life may seem like a waste. However, my clients to whom I offer GFE will be the first to say that you can’t put a price on happiness that fills the void of what was missing in their lives. Having a “virtual” phone girlfriend might be what one man needs to be happy in his marriage in order to still feel that his needs are being taken care of. Another man who utilizes a girlfriend experience might be the type of guy who is a bachelor that can get any girl he wants in bed, but has been missing intimacy for years; only now with his phone sex girlfriend he is able to experience all the best parts of a relationship with none of the drama or bullshit that can arise in “real life.”
Games, Assignments, and Challenges
Yes, we all know about “Truth of Dare,” “Never Have I Ever,” and “Would You Rather?” However, when it comes to games in the phone sex world, they are less like slumber party activities and more like deviant ways to fuck you over that will get you off. A majority of phone sex clients who engage in games and tasks lean toward the submissive side and are given rules and assignments in order to please their mistress. I personally don’t consider myself a “mistress” to anyone, but I do love certain calls where I can fuck with a guy’s mind and drive him to the edge of craziness. One of my favorite that falls under this category would be blackmail, which also doubles as a role play. I threaten you with exposing your sick and twisted fantasies to your family or boss or whomever and you do whatever I say in order to “pay me off.”
This might be something financial, but if Financial Domination isn’t your thing, it can be that you are denied an orgasm or say or do certain tasks for me that will bring me pleasure as the person in charge of you. Games are very popular in the phone sex financial domination world, where guys crave to play such things as “raise the rate,” “wallet draining,” and “pay to stroke.” Again, by establishing a trusting and honest relationship with your phone sex provider, she can tailor games or challenges to lean heavily financial or more toward a humiliation for you. Woman demanding payments just because aren’t playing a game; find a flirt who takes her role seriously and respects the boundaries you have. However, don’t expect us to be able to read your mind! Use NiteFlirt’s new chat feature to establish your preferences and see if a girl who is going to play some FinDom games with you will be a good fit for your dick and for your budget.
Is phone sex here to stay?
Every now and then you hear someone in the industry say that because of porn, cam girls, virtual sex bots, or whatever else is available and on the rise, that phone sex is a dying industry. I would argue that those people are out of their minds and that phone sex is here to stay and with very good reason. Few other forms of adult entertainment can allow us to dive into the deepest realm of our psyche and play out fantasy situations in such an imaginative way. Phone sex providers are erotic storytellers, we are your best friends and know you better than nearly anyone else in your life, and we get to be your dirty little secret.
With phone sex, you will:
Escape from Reality
You can be anyone, anywhere, any way each and every time you pick up the phone. You don’t have to worry about the report you’re working on at your job or the mundane steps you go through each day in life. During phone sex, you can be a pathetic loser or you could be a fucking king, regardless of what your role is in your every day life.
Lose Control
You don’t have to follow normal social conventions while engaging in phone sex with a professional! You can lose absolute control and call me a bitch or a whore, which you’d never be able to do to the women in your life. You can mouth off about your cunt of a girlfriend and how she doesn’t know how to properly suck cock or how she refuses to do anal, then tell me how you will blow a load so deep in my ass that it’s going to be spilling out all day long. You can moan, scream, shout, and pump your dick as loudly as you want, losing total control and cumming in any way that makes you feel like the man and fucking rockstar that you are.
Explore Your Sexuality
Always wondered what it’d be like to suck cock? Or have someone who forces you to wear panties to work each day? Or use a hot little fucktoy girl next door until she’s ruined? Or lick the dirty bottoms of a goddess’ boots? Consider all of the acts and behaviors that turn you on, and you and your phone sex flirt can find hot scenarios that will test your sexual boundaries even if they have become mundane and predictable in your real life relationships.
Find Everything More Tolerable
Your wife is a nag, your kids are annoying, your boss is an asshole, and you are being constantly ignored. Turn to 11pm (or whatever time works for you) when everyone in the house is tucked comfortably in bed. Now, it’s time to please YOURSELF. You can pick up the phone and call a sexy little phone fuck hottie like me, and have all of your needs attended to and taken care of to your liking. Trust me, it will make your days more tolerable when you look forward to calling your favorite flirt each day or night, and it also will make you more content and less resentful toward the current state of some of your relationships. You may even be surprised to find, that by exploring your needs and sexual interests though phone sex, your confidence and communication skills are improved and you’re more adventurous in the bedroom overall.
Time to find your favorite girl
So, let a fucking amazing phone goddess or sexy little fucktoy become your very favorite hobby to devote your time and money toward. Browse around for a girl who strikes your particular interest and reach out to her via NiteFlirt chat to discuss your fetishes and setting up a call. Look around NiteFlirt’s many categories and flirt offerings. You can create a “favorite” list by the click of a button and in just a few moments you’ll witness first hand the versatile offerings in the phone sex world.
Once you’ve connected with a phone sex provider who challenges your preconceived notions of what it means to “get off,” you will feel fulfilled in so many areas of your life! Whether you’re new to the scene or been calling girls for years, I can guarantee that once you hear my pretty little voice cater to your wildest desires, you’re gonna explode like only a perfect little doll can make you!
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— RyderDoll (@FlirtRyderDoll) September 25, 2017
